Everything happens for a Reason

Sometimes, we ask ourselves WHY?

Be a Better YOU

I am sure quite a few of you have asked yourselves why everything seems to be going wrong in your life at some point. Yes we get the occasional slip-ups, the knock-downs, the mistakes - whatever you call them. However, for some people, they have experienced the time when problems were like a "Domino effect". When you felt like you were broken into pieces and you felt your world crumble. 

To those who have not experienced such things, it may seem like an exaggeration and I know there are different levels of what I'm talking about, but for someone in such a situation, it really is a difficult time. But do you remember getting back up? Do you remember bringing yourself out of that situation? Truth is that it hurts like crazy, but when you escape from your tunnel, one feels elated. Then one asks, why did it have to happen to me? Well the thing is, them experiences are what builds you. They are what makes up your character. Yes it is true that during certain situations, you find that you have a weak character and it may have fallen apart, but the steps after this period of time is to LEARN from that experience. Hence why I call this a time of character-building. You may ask what character actually is and I don't even know a correct response to that myself, but I suppose it's what make you, you. Think on the lines of your personality, your charisma, humour, the way you tackle problems and obstacles or perhaps how you encourage others as well as keeping yourself motivated. Everything happens for a reason, so the reason may be to learn more about yourself and work on self-improvement. Not what your friends, parents or society thinks you should be, but only you because that way, you can really connect to yourself. I know this all sounds 'malarkey', but just think about it. There must have been a reason as to why you went through those times and as I have already mentioned: to learn from them and 'fix' something for the future. It may have been your attitude, your lack of responsibility, or perhaps your work ethic that needed fixing. It's all about making changes and amendments, like as if there is a warning sign on your path, telling you to stop your ways regarding certain things.

"learn from that experience"

There may even be some of you going through difficult times right now. Each situation is personal, whether it be relationships or even studies, we sometimes just hit that stage, you know? Don't worry. Don't panic. I'm not going to lie that you're Ok, because the truth is that you aren't - you're going through the obstacles. It's tough. What I do say is that once you realise yourself what is happening to you, then you can start working on what to do next. When one is in such situations, you feel as if no one understands you, they aren't feeling what you're feeling right now and that words won't do anything, but actually support is very important. People don't want to see you suffer or be depressed, they want you to be happy again. They want to see you smile and spend time with you to carry on living life. As I mentioned before, the reason for difficult times can vary, but taking the two examples I stated earlier on, there are certain points to note. 

In terms of relationships, it depends on what kind of situation you're involved in. Problems regarding your husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever, you should think: what will make you happy? I know not everything is solved as simple as some people may say, but you should think about yourself. Families may be involved, so you may need to think about them. So when you ask yourself about your happiness, will making just yourself content actually make you happy or does others' happiness affect you too? In some situations, there may be a need of letting go, whereas in other situations it's about working together to work on the problem. The reason you and your other person may be going through some hardship, may be because you both need to work on something. TALK to each other and let each other know what's wrong. Sometimes there may be a need of self-reflecting. 

"what will make you happy?"

In terms of studies for students, hardships you're going through may be about getting low grades. Well then, you should think about what you're doing wrong and how you could change things. It's difficult when you think you're putting in so much effort, yet you don't get the results you expect - even more when you thought you gave it your all. Then there's the other aspect of things, when you're not getting good grades that are personal to you, because you didn't even try - what did you expect? But for those who really are putting in effort, you need to self-reflect. What am I doing wrong? Remember, studies are not all plain-sailing for a lot of people, so don't compare yourself to others who aren't going through what you're going through right now. Success isn't just achieved in an instant, it's worked upon. The reason for you going through this time may be to really drill you into something even greater. Someone with better work ethic or more motivation. Think about how gold is made. It needs to be sorted, smashed, and heated just to be refined. The process is a lot, but in the end it's worth it, thus refine yourself.
Reflect, study and work even harder to reach your Dreams. 

"...refine yourself"

Is it right thing?

This may involve being in a certain place, due to a made decision or uncontrollable circumstances. You ask yourself, am I really supposed to be here? A big example of this would be for those who study abroad or away, or perhaps even at home. You ask yourself whether you made a good decision because at the moment, you're not really feeling things right now. Every decision we make comes a consequence, they may be bad or they may be good. But how are we really supposed to know if we made the right choice? Yes, it does involve how you feel, but in another perspective we don't quite fully know if we have or not, until time goes by. I personally believe God knows our future. 

" "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future"

Jeremiah 29:11 

The people you meet, the places you see, everything happens for a reason. Maybe the reason you're where you are, is to meet these certain people? You may build new friendships or even meet your future boyfriend/girlfriend. Sometimes being in a certain place, can make you realise who you actually want be be around with and who you don't. Going away may be to have different experiences that you'll remember for the rest of your life. However, sometimes the situation might be a little bit different, as it may be that you are not where you're supposed to be. Situations will crop up and will make you think, thus you realise that there was a reason for those situations.

So just take things step-by-step and don't over-think every situation. We don't know what great things our future has for us, we don't know where we'll be and who we'll be with, but we've just got to trust God and appreciate the present.

Have a blessed day everyone.